Introducing “A New Vocabulary”

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“A New Vocabulary” is a new series of blog posts designed to give you self-compassionate language for a variety of body image topics. The series aims to give you the positive self-talk you need, right when you need it.

It’s great to see a growing conversation about being kind to yourself, loving yourself, etc. But have you ever asked yourself, “Um, how do I actually do that?!?”

Over the course of my body image journey, I’ve gotten to a point where I can detect diet culture seeping into my inner thoughts (e.g., “You were bad because you ate XYZ” or “Going for a walk isn’t enough” or “You need to earn those calories by exercising,” etc.). Although I can detect and pause a negative thought, I’ve realized that after YEARS of societal messages telling me the thinness, beauty and youth lead to happiness, that exercise needs to be hard core and painful to “count,” etc., I don’t always have the vocabulary to REPLACE the thought with self compassion.

Luckily, we CAN retrain our brains, and there are a lot of great vocabulary teachers out there. But it can be tricky to find what you need right when you need it. A few months back, I was putting away dishes when I noticed my pants felt snug. The pit in my stomach and anxiety over potential weight gain started to rear its head. I remembered, though, that I had read something awesome on Instagram about weight change (that I wanted to say to myself in that moment) but I couldn’t quite remember the message or who had written it. And it would have taken way too long time scroll to find it.

Although I couldn’t find the mantra I was looking for at that moment, an idea sparked. An idea that is helping me and now I hope it helps you, too.

I’m launching a series of blog posts called “A New Vocabulary.” Each post will focus on one body image topic and aggregate Instagram content that speaks to that topic. As I find more great content, I’ll add to these posts. My hope is that if you find yourself stopping your negative thoughts but lacking the self-compassionate vocabulary to replace it, you can come here, click on “A New Vocabulary” in the toolbar and quickly find the language you’re looking for. If there’s topics you’d like me to address, let me know!

Our inaugural ‘A New Vocabulary’ topic was chosen in honor of that moment a few months ago in my kitchen when I was searching … grasping for these words: Your Body is Allowed to Change.

Your Body is Allowed to Change

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Before and after photos, the 10 year challenge, getting back to the “original weight”, I could go on and on. I can’t even count the number of times someone has said they wished they looked like they did back in high school or in their 20s or 30s. Our bodies are going to change and look different. Spending energy on dieting to try to look the same as you did in your teens is not necessary and should not be done. Our bodies adapt to getting older especially with life events and stress. Yes you should still continue with a healthy diet and maybe add in more vitamins and minerals than you had when you were younger. Yes you should definitely continue to exercise in order to help prevent chronic illnesses and also for more energy. But changing your diet to get back into your high school jeans will be a wasted effort and an unnecessary one. PRO TIP 👉🏽👉🏽👉🏽 Focus on personal growth that does not include physical appearance. You should be evolving as a person. You shouldn’t be the same person you were years ago. Life is about constantly learning. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #dietculture #dietculturedropout #dietculturesucks #progressnotperfection #progressoverperfection #bodypositive #bodypositivity #bodytrust #bodypeace #bodyrespect #bodyliberation #stopdieting #ditchthedietchallenge #dietician #rdn #rds #dietitiansofinstagram #rdsofinstagram #dietitianapproved #rdapproved #allbodiesaregoodbodies

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It’s easy to let yourself go. You let yourself go every time you prioritize how you look over how you FEEL and what you can DO and who you ARE. You let yourself go every time you turn down that invite because you don’t have the right outfit, or edit and filter that photo because you’re embarrassed of your skin, or sit out of that workout because you don’t want to jiggle and sweat and get winded. You let yourself go every time you picture yourself living instead of just living (it’s called self-objectification, and it’s a normal and debilitating part of most of our lives). 💗You FIND yourself again every time you prioritize how you FEEL and what you can DO and who you ARE over you fears of what you may look like. You find yourself when you show up anyway, love anyway, play anyway, LIVE anyway. You deserve to reclaim your life from the soul-sucking prison of self-conscious body monitoring, “fixing” your body, and waiting for your life to begin once you qualify to be seen. You aren’t here to be looked at, you’re here to BE. You have so much good to experience, and do, and feel, and you are held back from all that life when you prioritize your appearance over it all. You deserve to find yourself. It’s time to come home. 💛For more of our research-driven insight, check out our TEDx talk, Body Image Resilience online course, podcast interviews & blog at and linked in our bio! #morethanabody #seemorebemore #beautyredefined

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